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Maybe We Should Argue In Front Of The Kids (Sometimes)

Earlier in the year, my husband and I were arguing at the family dinner table.  It wasn’t over anything particularly big, it wasn’t heated and there were no insults or raised voices – we were simply discussing the topic at hand and exchanging our different points of view.  Part-way through, I glanced at my son’s […]

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Raising Well-Rounded Kids

There seems to be a gold standard for human beings that we call “well-rounded”.  At sports and school prize-givings, there’s usually even an award for “best all-rounder” or something of similar effect.  Well-rounded is a vague kind of a term, suggesting that the person to whom we can attribute this quality is fully developed in every desirable trait and ability.  They are complete in some way that those of us with pieces/qualities missing are not.  From childhood, we are given the mistaken impression that being well-rounded is favourable and actually possible.

3 Questions Every Parent Needs To Ask Themselves

…I now use getting present and inviting my intuition in (like I learned to do in my classroom that day) in my parenting.  It especially helps me to respond appropriately to difficult situations with my boys.  Although I sometimes share with you strategies for approaching specific situations in a respectful way (eg. to discipline or to respond to an angry child), I prefer to use my intuition than to lean on a process or strategy by default.  Over the years, my best responses to situations have come to me in the moment when I’ve had no plan for how to approach it but my heart and mind have been open to really seeing what’s going on.  The trick is to ask ourselves the right questions.

Confident Kids – Risk, Fear & Failure

When we worry about our kids not being confident, we worry both about the anxiety they feel and that they will miss out on valuable experiences.  Experiences we know they really would enjoy if they could just forget themselves for a moment and experiences they could learn from.  We know they’d love to join in with that birthday party game but they’re too unsure of what to do.  We know they need to develop their literacy skills but they won’t give new words in their reading a go, appealing to us to tell them instead.

So, I’ve been thinking lately, what is confidence?…

10 Tips for Talking About Spirituality with Our Kids

It’s easy to go through the day without talking about things of a spiritual nature with our children.  We’re busy dealing with what’s obviously in front of us, not always tuned in to the non-physical ourselves.  But, for me, everything that happens within our physical experience  is part of our spiritual experience also.  If we […]

Parenting is Yoga – Flexibility, Strength & Balance

Being a new mum was just like going to my first yoga class – I didn’t have a clue what to do and everyone else around me seemed to know what they were doing.  Unlike yoga class, though, I couldn’t just do my best for 90 minutes then roll up my mat and leave – the baby was always there!  Reflecting on those new mum days made me think about how similar parenting and a yoga class are. 

Is “Keeping Up” Keeping Our Children Down?

…One thing I noticed about the teens who spoke so openly in Not Alone was that they had been tuning into the wrong things for their sense of self.  Things that, in the end, sent them spiraling downwards – the expectations of their parents & teachers, trying to fit in with their peers, careless comments & dishonestly perfect images on social media feeds…It seemed that, if they had had a greater sense of themselves, they may have had more perspective instead of getting sucked into the black hole of comparison. It was in trying to “keep up” in some way that most of them had found themselves spiraling downwards. 

Pocket Money, Chores & Values

When Jake was 4 years old, he enjoyed looking at bargain shops, especially perusing the toy aisles and all their strangely fascinating plastic junk.  Inevitably, each time we went into a bargain shop, he would want me to buy something for him.  I never did.  He had enough toys.  Also, I wanted to teach him […]

Journal of an Overwhelmed Mum

An excerpt from my journal this week – I’m thinking about how I can feel lighter in the world.   My first thought is to eliminate sources of stress. That seems logical.  But the thing is, many of those things are also the sources of joy, growth and contribution in my life.  Life would be a […]