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Mother Locks Herself in Bedroom

It’s 1:53pm on an ordinary school holiday Friday and I have locked myself in my bedroom, leaving my kids to fend for themselves downstairs. I’m not being entirely irresponsible. Before coming up here, I reminded them to put hats & sunscreen on if they go outside. I then told them where I’d be and that […]

My 100th Essay! (with free PDF)

For this, my 100th essay, it seemed fitting to take a moment to reflect on all that I’ve learned both from parenting and from writing about parenting. If someone were to ask me, “what is soulful parenting?” what would I say, now that I’m 100 essays in? The obvious place to start is with the […]

Please Don’t Ask My Kids These Questions at Christmas Time

I really appreciate it when adults make an effort to engage my boys in conversation. It sharpens their social & communication skills and shows them that what they have to say is important. But some people don’t give children much credit or take enough care over what they say when talking with children. There are […]

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Slow Down: How Hurrying Impacts Our Kids

“I don’t have time for you to have a meltdown!”I have never actually said this out loud. But I have said it very loudly in my head on many occasions – usually when I’m swirling about like a cyclone, still in my dressing gown with only 4 minutes left before we need to leave the […]

Connected Kids: Encouraging a “We Mentality”

Today’s children and young people are often accused of being entitled, self-centred, and spoiled. When one of my sons takes the last biscuit or refuses to help tidy up because “it’s not my mess”, I worry that he may well be living up to these labels. Sometimes my boys appear oblivious to the fact that […]

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Stay-at-Home Parenting, Worth & Visibility

Before having children, I was a dedicated, passionate primary school teacher.  I felt an enormous sense of responsibility and commitment to my students.  Between my own conscientiousness and the demands of the job, though, I realised that teaching wasn’t a sustainable career for me.  I was constantly spread too thin, exhausted to my bones, without […]

Raising Kids who are Willing to do Chores

Let me dream a little here.  Ideally, my husband or I would notice something that needs doing, ask one of our sons to do it and they would just do it.  No complaining that it’s their brother’s turn to do a job and why do they always have to be the one to do the work.  No pleading to do it later, which we all know never comes (at least, not without consistent nagging).  No using up my own time and energy getting them to do a job that I could’ve done myself with less effort than I was using trying to get them to do it.

Is My Parenting Working?

I’m fortunate that almost all the comments people leave on my essays and social media posts are positive and kind.  I don’t think I write anything particularly controversial but my ideas can be unconventional at times and, very occasionally, someone leaves a comment like “that won’t work!” as if I don’t have a clue what […]

Put Down Those Parenting Books!

When I was expecting my first baby, I devoured baby care books.  I used my library card to borrow almost every book that had been written about newborn babies and, from there, chose the best ones to actually purchase.  I packed the chosen few along with my birth plan in my hospital suitcase.  I was […]

Be The Change You Wish To See In Your Family

I didn’t really get this well-known quote until relatively recently. I used to think it was an inspiring thought but, really, what difference could little old me make in the world? I thought Ghandi’s words were for other people- the type of exceptional people who achieve extraordinary things that go down in history like he did. Then my husband and I had children, creating our own little “world”
of sorts.